Sex, alcohol, and standards

So today at lunch my friend mentioned that her step-mom had never wanted to marry a man who had a child, and ended up doing just that. So we started talking about the kind of people we'll one day want to marry. Now I'm not trying to sound judgemental, but the fact is that America's not the best place to look up to for a successful marriage. I think around 50% of my friends parents are either divorced, separated or previously divorced. Not to mention people whose parents were never married to each other, people whose parents have open marriages, and people who are products of one night stands or affairs. The sad fact is, I know at least one person who falls into all the above. And I think the problem is that people have no standards. I mean, my friend said "I think I'd accept anything in a guy as long as he's never been in prison." And another person said"Actually, it depends what his record's for...I mean underage drinking or thest is ok." Hello!!!???!!! What is wrong with this picture? The fact is, that there are certain standards that I hold myself to and I expect that one day I'll find someone who's the same. And wipe off that "it's impossible" look on your face. It's NOT impossible. My parents found each other. So did my grand-parents. My cousin found his fiancee. I know parents of friends back home who found each other. It's important to find somebody who's like you. Me, for example. I will never drink. I don't want to be in a state of mind where I'm not fully me. I mean let's get real, y'all, we're all pretty awesome. There is nothing in that beer bottle that could possibly add to that. At the same time, I will never have sex before getting married. I know three kids who are alive because of a high school romance between "soulmates" and lots of hormones. The sad fact is that college, real life and a crying baby came along- and the soulmates were separated forever. And not in a romantic way like Romeo and Juliet. And things like jail and drugs? It just goes without saying that those are NOT in the picture. These are standards I hold myself to, and if everyone else expected better of themselves- we'd have a much better country.